Do you wake up in the morning and decide to be happy today? Is it going to be a good day if you think it's going to be a good day? Or do you wake up in the morning and know it's going to be an ordinary day, maybe just another shitty 24 hours?
I do the last one. That's one of the major differences between positive and negative people.
Positive outlook is admired. Everyone wants to have friends and partners who see life from a positive point of view. Smile is pretty, smile is good. Be positive: share love, do something good every day, love yourself, be optimistic. Be disappointed time after time and continue smiling. Does that make you happy? Happiness is a way of life? You just need to be happy with what you have? I don't know, but this is how I understood positive outlook works.
How about people with negative outlook? They complain, they are depressed, they are annoying, they don't try enough. They don't see the beauty in the world. They focus on the bad things, they don't want to be happy. So they're not happy. Why do they do that? Negative people don't interest anyone. Negative people are told to get over themselves and force a smile even when they're not happy. Just like positive people do. Because no one likes negativity.
Who decided being positive is the right attitude? Positive people.
I'm neither positive or negative.
So I wake up in the morning and curse in my mind, knowing it's not going to be a good day. Anything could happen in theory, I could bump into my soulmate, I could get the opportunity of my life. But most likely it's going to be the same old. On a daily basis, I'm quite negative. There's nothing wrong with being negative. I don't complain, I don't dwell in misery, but I tend to focus on the bad things. Even though I don't really care when shit happens. Being positive doesn't suit everyone. If you're a naturally negative person, you can't just decide to be positive. It's harder to try to be positive than to let yourself be negative. Why should you force yourself to be happy when you're not? Why is it so admirable when you can smile even through the toughest times? I think it's admirable just to get through tough times, you don't need to smile. You can curse the world and hate everyone and everything if it helps you to cope. Wake up in the morning and decide to keep working no matter how tired and worn out you are, because some day in the future that hard work will pay off. And then the days will be good because they are good and not because you convinced yourself so.
How about the good times then? I don't agree with the statement written on one of my cousin's wall: Happiness is not a destination, it's a way of life. Happiness is not a way of life. Maybe for some people it is. But not all people can't force themselves to be happy. Why should I learn to be happy with what I have? It's great some people can, honestly. But if I can have the things that will actually make me happy then I don't want to learn to be happy with what I have. That's not being negative. That's being ambitious. The things that would really make you happy are called dreams. And when you reach them, you can be happy with what you have. What's the point of having dreams if you're not going after them?
Being positive is good, but not the only option. Being entirely negative is not good. Being positive is just as annoying for non-positive people as being negative is for positive people. I would not be any happier if I tried to be positive. I guess I'm a realist. I don't force happiness into misery or misery into happiness.
So are we all looking for the sun? Do we run after love, get hurt, and keep running again? Do we all look for the happiness where days are nothing but smiling, rainbows and sunshine? No. Some prefer moonlight.
(Inspiration by the song Outlaws of Love by Adam Lambert, the part "Everywhere we go, we're looking for the sun...")
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